Dealing with Conflict Midvale UT

Dealing with Conflict

Many parents put pressure on their children to apply to colleges that will increase their own status or self-esteem. If you’re one of these, you may be unwittingly setting your kid up for rejection or, at the very least, frustration. The decal on the back of your car doesn’t mean squat if your child is miserable. There might be many alumni who insist that their years in the Ivy League were worth the all-nighters and extracurricular efforts that it took to get there but some studies suggest that these super-school graduates are no more successful down the road, financially or otherwise.

Put your feelings aside and encourage your child to seek a challenging college experience without attaching unrealistic importance to name schools. Above all, never confuse the kind of student your child is with the kind of person he or she is. There are hundreds of thousands of high school students who are clever, kind, reliable, and even remarkable and who won’t be heading to Harvard next fall — but they’ll still lead happy and productive lives that will make their parents proud. There’s no reason to believe that your child can’t be one of them.

Is this a split decision?
Everything we’ve suggested so far assumes that you and your spouse (if applicable) are a united front but perhaps the truth is that you and your mate don’t see eye-to-eye on this college business at all. That’s normal!

Author: Amy Ambler

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